Well, I don’t know about not having Nothing but I do know that Love, Honesty, Truth and Respect are important when it comes to relationships. Over the years when I ask people what is important in a relationship, honesty is almost always mentioned. When I think of the word “honesty”, it makes me think of someone who does what they say they will do, and who is truthful and right in words and deeds. They have Integrity. And integrity is doing the right thing even when nobody is watching.
So why is all of this important? Ok lets look at some examples. Your boss tells you that if you work for 6 months that at the end of the 6 months you will get a $1 raise. You are counting on the raise so that you can start paying off some of your bills. When the 6 months rolls around you don’t get the raise. You feel that your boss has lied to you and you don’t trust his word. Maybe you start looking for another job or maybe you stick around but you believe that whatever he says might not happen. Another example is that your child tell you that they are going to spend the night with a friend that you approve of but then you find out that your child did not stay the night with them. At first you might be worried. You find out that they stayed with a friend that you do not approve of, and now you are angry. You do not feel like you can trust your child to be where they are suppose to be. And the last example, Your friend tells you that they can’t came over because they are spending the evening with family. So, you decide to go out with another friend. While you are out you see your friend with someone else. They see you and attempt to duck and hide but its to late. You might think that they really don’t care for you enough to be honest about why they did not want to spend the evening with you.
The consequences of lying to someone is the loss of trust. Can you really believe anything else that they tell you? Maybe it is just one time, but there is a question in the back of their head, are they being honest with you or not? Are they being truthful. The seed of doubt is planted. How about you? Are you truthful with other people? What about me? Am I being honest with the people I care about?
I’m not going to pretend that I have always been honest. But I can tell you, a lie damages the relationship. Sometimes the truth hurts, but in my experience not as much as a lie.
So, this is why I believe that being honest is so important. When someone is honest you can count on them. They are not misleading, deceiving or manipulating you. What you see is what you get. If you are the person being honest you know that the people around you respect you and honor you for who you are. Plus you don’t have to work so hard to remember what you told someone.
Honesty is showing the other person (and yourself) that you love or care about them and respect them enough to be truthful. You have integrity in your relationship. This is a value and trait that I find important.
When I find people who care enough about our relationship to be honest with me that makes me happy. Have a wonderful day.